Letting a Pause Do Its Work
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A pause in conversation can feel uncomfortable enough that many interviewers rush to fill it before the silence stretches too long. That discomfort is often exactly the sign that something important is being worked out internally by the speaker, right before it reaches the surface as actual speech.
Learning to sit through this discomfort without intervening takes real practice, particularly for interviewers accustomed to the quicker rhythms of everyday conversation. In ordinary conversation, silence is more often treated as something to be resolved quickly than as something genuinely worth protecting and allowing to properly continue on its own.
The reward for this patience is usually a fuller, more considered answer than any prompt could ever have produced from the same speaker. The pause itself does quiet work that a well-meaning interruption would only have cut short before it had properly finished. Few habits reward an interviewer so reliably for so little visible effort.